Every adult out there knows what working does. It pays the bill to sum it all up. What about love? Everyone knows love, it’s a dedication overboard in a sense. With these two having nothing in common, I’ve decided to make this post of two separate things, only because the title sounds cool ^_^
I’ve been working at my new job for a little over a month and a week. At first, I was doing a lot more getting used to the time, place, and how things work, but as I settled down, I began to understand why some people go through the motion of work. It can be tough at times and it can bring in a lot of thought on one specific thing. I’m a web designer. Though I don’t particularly design web sites for a living, it’s part of the description. I don’t consider myself much of a developer, so it fits me well. But why should I succumb to work as being something I have to do to survive in this world because it’s what brings in money into my life? Ever since I started to work, I’ve always looked for a job that I enjoy. Something I want to do. People keep telling me, it’s not as easy or finding a job that they like or want to do is probably the most difficult thing in looking for a job that’s perfect for them. I say all these excuses are nothing but fat excuses. So you’re 15 and you want to play games all your life and test game as a job. Well, when was the last time you wrote a 15-page paper critiquing a game that you played and the ins and outs and everything there is about the game, from the gameplay to the story to the very art cover that attracts people to that game? I didn’t think you did any of those.
When I used to say, “Find a job that you enjoy and love.” I think I should have been clearer. I should have gone in depth and say “Find a realistic job for now that you will like.” In my entire life of working, there was only one job that I dislike and I picked it because I wasn’t working and I was given that opportunity. It’s not something bad per-say, but it wasn’t something for me. I cannot do direct selling and no matter how much you try to get me, I refuse. The reason is because selling other people’s product means nothing to me than an incentive that I might get out in the end. I make money from selling more items isn’t my idea of work. Then again, it is to many.
I have worked at a pet resort. It was tiring, filthy at times, and was also far away from home. That didn’t stop me from enjoying moment in there with the dogs and cats I got to clean and feed. That was the one enjoyable thing I found when I was tired. I have worked at an ice cream store, and though it was a small shop, I would say some of the friendship and the quality I learned from an ice cream shop carried with me till this day. I did not enjoy every customer who came in, but I did my best and as long as I delivered ice cream to them, that was all that had to be said and done. Those were jobs that I ventured before being able to work on a computer and sit in front of one and start coding, doing something that will eventually lead me to where I am, my career.
If I needed a job, I looked for the one I know I would enjoy. Something will turn out eventually, so why can’t some of the people who complain about their job do the same thing? I think what make the difference is mentality. From a younger age, I didn’t love what I had to do. I was told to clean my room, wash this, wash that, mow the lawn, etc… you get the picture. I didn’t enjoy them, but I did them anyway. Eventually, they became mundane at times, but I would always try to find something exciting to do with it. When I mowed the lawn, I didn’t really mow it in a straight line down the yard like how everyone says should be done. Who made that rule anyway? I started going zig-zag and some times cutting the lawn in half and then into quarters and so on and before I knew it, I have mowed the entire backyard by cutting each patch in halves.
What I’m saying out of all these rant is really simple. The little things that you might have overlooked could have made you love your work so much more. When was the last time you really try loving your work. When that happens, work isn’t just work anymore, it’s play. When work and play go hand-in-hand, that’s when you’ve achieve true love for your work. Until then, keep on pressing. If you really don’t like it, I suggest you stop working and start looking for a new job.
And then there is love. I’ll keep this short… you can never love someone enough. If you say you love your wife or husband or someone with all your heart, you are telling a lie. I’ve told that lie before, and I know it’s true. But to me, as much as my heart will allow at that time, it’s not a lie, but that is still an excuse to say I didn’t lie. I cannot love someone whole heartedly. It is impossible. If you say you love more than one thing, then you will have to split that love up. In mathematical terms, one is a whole, and if one has to split up, it is not a whole and not one anymore. That is why we as human grow and we learn more and we show more than what we have to offer last year, last month, last week, yesterday, or even an hour ago. I believe we have been given the ultimate gift, evolution. Now before you start talking about physical evolution stuff, I am not talking about that. Don’t go saying I agree with the evolution stuff that science book teaches.
So, evolution. As human beings, we evolve constantly. Adapting to environment is part of evolution. Learning from mistake is part of evolution. Learning to say “Yes Dear!” or “No, you don’t look fat.” is part of evolution. Jokes aside, we evolve and we learn more every day. How then can we say we love with all our heart or whole heartedly? Nay I say. That is why we as human beings have to work harder in loving more. Learn more of what love can give, take, contribute, share, and so on and so forth. Love might be an absolute matter in itself, but as human, we cannot see how far love can take us. So work on it. Maybe next time when you love on someone, don’t say the word love… just show that love is there. Maybe then a little more love has been learned from either the receiver or the giver. Until the, work on learning love a bit more, cause I know I do.
